Names have been changed to protect the innocent (And the guilty. Mostly the guilty)
“For almost thirty years, we’ve been able to say that the leadership at this church has never had a moral failing, but...we just found out Dan and Christina have been
having an affair...
Our head pastor trailed off.
This was a bombshell. Our worship pastor had been having an affair with someone on the worship team. The head pastor continued:
“This is going to be a difficult time. I want to make one thing perfectly clear: I’m going to be upset if people say they saw this coming. No one saw this coming. No one. “
Funny...our pastors always said that they were listening to what God had to say to them. I guess God didn't see it coming? Or maybe they just weren't listening hard enough? Oops.
An internal investigation was launched. It turned out this was the second affair. Double oops.
The first was years ago. Dan, his wife, the women he was fooling around with at that time, and her husband had a private meeting and decided the church didn’t need to be told. It was between them and God. The affair would stop, and that would be that.
The worship pastor was fired. Not too long after, the administrative pastor’s secretary was fired. There had been an “inappropriate relationship”. The pastor refuses to take any responsibility. It could have been an emotional affair. Or maybe the secretary just developed too close a relationship with him, I don’t know. But in my experience these things aren't one sided.
Then the youth pastor’s wife divorced him. We were assured that he had done everything possible to save his marriage, and that he would be staying on staff. They didn’t come out and say it, but they made it seem like his wife’s fault. Again, these things are not one sided, and people who knew him knew that there had been problems for a long time, and that he hadn’t addressed them. It’s been five months since the divorce, and, to my knowledge, he still wears his wedding ring. And the church was much less forthcoming with information than they were when the news of the affair broke.
But hey, people aren’t perfect, right? Forgive! Hate the sin love the sinner! Don’t judge lest ye be judged. Etc., etc.
And we did forgive. People aren’t perfect, myself included. And we were assured by the remaining pastor’s that change was a comin’.
But then we were attacked on a second front.